That Time I Lied and Said Sex Doesn’t Feel Good

I was the senior class president of Petal High School in 1997, and one of my duties was to make a trip to the middle school to talk about sexual abstinence with the eighth graders.

I was fairly legalistic at the time, and my virginity was one of my favorite signs of my superior walk with the Lord. As I once explained to my mother after she reprimanded me for my lack of self-control over my mouth: “Mom, I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs or have sex. What more do you want?”

So being asked to go to an auditorium full of 13-year-old kids and brag about my virginity was, in some ways, a dream come true.

I practiced quite a lot for the speech, and it all came out just as perfectly as I had hoped — minus one line. With great earnestness, I said, “Let me tell you something: Sex before marriage doesn’t feel good.” Remarkably, no one laughed at this presumptuous assertion, but thanks to one boy in the crowd, I knew I had gone a step too far.

At the very moment the words came out of my mouth, my eyes locked on the boy, who rolled his eyes. And somehow I realized, That kid has had enough exposure at this young age to know I’m full of it.

It Feels Good

For any of those eighth graders who may be reading this today, let me be clear: Although I waited until marriage to have sex, I have no doubt that it still would’ve felt great — at least physically — to do it before saying my vows.

That’s what makes sin alluring; there’s usually something fun about it. But it’s not just premarital sex that feels good. Most sin generally feels pretty good.

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