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A Woman Won’t Fix Your Porn Habit

Not long ago, I was at my favorite coffee shop visiting with an acquaintance who is a recently married, self-professing Christian. He has a new baby girl, so I asked how his daughter was doing. He pulled out his iPad to show me a photo of her, and what happened next was one of the most awkward moments of my adult life.

I looked over his shoulder, waiting to see the picture, and when he put in his passcode, the screen opened to an image — but not one of his infant daughter. It was a screen full of multiple hard-core porn scenes. He gasped a little and jerked the iPad away while I took a step back, startled and unsure of what to do.

“Let me see,” he said nervously, fiddling with the screen, “I know I had those pictures in here somewhere — oh! Here you go!” And just like that, the pornography was replaced with a picture of an innocent baby girl looking at the camera.

“Wow,” I said, feeling rather disoriented, “she’s so beautiful. How old is she now?” And then we carried on with the conversation, pretending everything was totally normal until I could slip away.

A Warped Brain

According to a recent survey, over 60% of self-identifying Christian men admit they view porn at least once a month, and there’s barely a difference if the men are married. If you’re a single man and you believe marriage will curb your porn habit, you should probably know that it’s unlikely. Pornography use typically leads to pornography addiction, and you can’t kick an addiction just because you found a replacement. It’s too late — you’re already a slave.

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