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Posts from the ‘Spiritual Clumsiness’ Category

How to Offer Jesus the Ugliest Parts of Your Life

I spent a lot of my early Christian walk hiding the areas of brokenness of which I was most ashamed. It was like I believed the worst stuff would go away if I simply didn’t acknowledge it. All it did, however, was cover up the symptoms until my issues bubbled to the surface, causing me to sink into shame. But over the years, the Lord spoke a lot of comfort to me with this Bible story about a man who was seen as unapproachable.
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What to Do About the Dangerous Raccoons in our Souls

Yesterday, my wife called me at work and told me there was an animal of some kind in the chimney.

“How do you know?” I asked.

“There are little pieces of leaves and cotton falling down into the fireplace, and I can hear scratching noises.” Read more

Be Careful What You Let People Name You

Be careful what you name yourself; and be careful what you allow others to name you.

Clown.

Dumb blonde. Read more

Surprise: My Wife and I Are Starting to Enjoy Teamwork

Last weekend, I got out our trusty, old fake Christmas tree and put it together.  But when I plugged it in, I discovered that half of the lights in the middle section were dead. Read more

Battling the “Lusts of the Flesh” During Yard Work

I know this was stupid, but last weekend, I did two hours of yard work, despite the fact that I had a severe sinus infection.  It all happened because my wife was outside planting bulbs, and I just couldn’t handle the fact that she was laboring in the yard while I sat inside and rested (which was exactly what I needed to be doing).   Read more

The Danger of Liquor, Buffets, and Self-righteousness

“Margaritas, everyone!” said the worship leader from my new church as she filled plastic cups for the partygoers in her home. I was mortified, and I figured God was too.

Then I walked outside where I found our Austrian pastor making conversation and smoking a cigarette. All I could do was put on my best fake smile, bid farewell, and ease away from the party in confusion. Read more

The Positive Side of Our Insecurities

Back in college, I was a high maintenance friend.

As I’ve described in my article, “Facing Insecurity, Finding Friendship,” “I always needed a prompt reply to my phone call or email, an enthusiastic ‘yes’ to my invitations. I needed to be coddled and comforted and assured that I was liked.  If someone neglected to call back, it couldn’t be because they forgot — no way, it had to be because they were ignoring me and my all-important need for affirmation.” Read more

What’s Behind our Inferiority Complex

When I was growing up in Petal, Mississippi, I felt a steady sense of being out-of-place. I didn’t play sports; my dad didn’t take me hunting; I paid the reduced price for my school lunch; and we weren’t Southern Baptists like almost everyone else in town. These were a few of the clues that helped me see that I didn’t belong. Read more

Stop Submitting to Satan’s Abuse

One afternoon when I was 6 years old, I was physically assaulted by a female adult whom I did not know. It happened about 25 yards from the apartment where I lived. Read more

When Interest Turns Into Idolatry

When I was in my late 20s and single, I was afraid I was idolizing marriage, and I had reason to be. I knew marriage was a healthy, God-given desire. But I oftentimes found myself obsessing over it, anguishing over the wait before I met “the one,” and inordinately discouraged when another hopeful romance turned out to be nothing. Read more