A Suggestion for the Frustrated Single
It was April of 2002. I was single, living alone, and had no prospect of marriage in sight (nor would I for several years). But for some reason, I felt compelled to pick up my journal and write a prayer for my future wife.
I prayed that if she was going through a hard time or making any bad decisions that God would give her the grace to move on and forgive herself. It seemed like the right thing to pray at that moment.
And it was.
Six years later, I had been married for a couple of months when I came across the prayer in my journal and reread it.
“Hey honey, what were you doing in April of 2002?” I asked her.
“Oh my goodness, I was a total mess at the time,” she said. “I needed Jesus so badly.”
“That’s interesting,” I said, and then I read the prayer to her – the prayer that God answered before I ever met her.
I know some wonderful, unmarried people who have crossed over into their thirties or forties without any prospect for marriage. Most of them have battled with serious discouragment, not knowing why their prayers go unanswered or how they should even pray.
If you’re one of those people and you’re trying to figure out how to pray about this nagging area, these are my thoughts, for what they’re worth.
First of all, let’s just assume that there’s nothing wrong with you simply because you’re frustrated with being single. Instead, let’s assume you’re frustrated with being single because you have a God-given desire to be married.
Now assuming that’s true, what the heck – let’s go all the way and assume that if God gave you that desire, He’s got somebody for you out of the billions of people on the planet. And if that’s true, perhaps you should consider taking a break from praying for God to give you a spouse and instead try praying for the one who’s already out there.
You never know – He might just answer your prayer.