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What Marriage Might Do to Your Big Dreams

When I first started dating my wife, we were eating dinner one night and she asked a question that I didn’t think was very controversial: “What do you want to do with the rest of your life?”

In my response, I mentioned that I wanted to return to my home state of Mississippi and run for Attorney General, and I also said I wanted four or five children. She looked at me like she was waiting for me to announce that I was joking. I wasn’t.

She looked into my eyes and said, “I’ve never wanted more than two children.”

“Oh. Well, could you see yourself living in Mississippi?” I asked.

“Um, I think it’s probably a nice place to visit,” she said.

I furrowed my brow. We already had a brewing controversy over whether to attend her church or mine (both were great churches, but they were very different). What if we ended up at her church? What if we got married and only had two kids? What if I never got to fulfill my dream of being the Mississippi Attorney General? What if I ended up living in D.C., stuck with the traffic, housing prices and rude city people?

I was spiraling, and God only knows what panicked thoughts Raquel was having at the same time. But then I shrugged off my fears and figured, Oh well, I’m sure we’ll work it out.

I was right.

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  1. Graeme Phillips #

    I cannot fault you for desiring a large family (Psalm 127:4).


    September 15, 2015

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