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Opening the Door to those Painful Memories

I used to work in an office that had layers upon layers of dysfunctional relationships, and the only effective way to avoid the drama was to go work somewhere else.  Almost everyone eventually did leave; but while they were there, they had to put up with being in a place where once-reasonable adults openly hurled insults, undermined each others work, and maliciously spread gossip.  It was traumatizing for a lot of the folks who survived it. Read more

What’s Going on in the Valley?

Eight years ago this month, I was at a hat-themed party in Washington, D.C., feeling an acute level of insecurity.  In a variety of areas of my life, I was dealing with a lack of integrity, self-control, and spiritual maturity.  And although I’m sure my personal life could’ve been worse, it was bad enough that I knew I wouldn’t be getting married for at least another couple of years.   Read more

How I Almost Lost My Faith

One summer during high school, I spent a couple of weeks with a well-meaning adult who aggressively tried to undermine everything I believed about Jesus.  The man inundated me with anti-Christian arguments I had never considered before and ran circles around my partially-developed 14-year-old brain.  By the end of our time together, my faith was in shambles. Read more

What Happened When My Daughter Went Missing

The other day, I let my three-year-old daughter ride her scooter on the sidewalk in front of our house, despite my irrational fear of her suddenly being kidnapped by a random psychopath.  I wasn’t especially worried about it because I was landscaping just a few feet away. Occasionally, I looked down the slope from our house to make sure she wasn’t going too far down the sidewalk. Read more

Your Miscarriage, Remembered

My mother did not expect to miscarry her first child.

She was young and healthy and four months pregnant.  She was too far along to miscarry.  Yet in the early hours of a December morning, she began experiencing severe pain in her abdomen.  It was happening. Read more

Invite Jesus to Rewrite Your Story

Thirteen years ago, I never could’ve imagined telling hundreds of people at a conference that I experienced sexual abuse as a child – much less writing an article about it.  But then again, 13 years ago, I was just beginning the healing process.  Read more

Sharing My Darkest Secret with My Girlfriend

I vividly remember the day I sat down and shared my darkest secret with my girlfriend, Raquel. The pressure had been mounting, in part, because my attraction to her had been growing. And I felt like I was being dishonest in allowing her to think I was some super stable guy when, in fact, I was wrestling with years of anguish after experiencing sexual abuse as a child. Read more

The Right Time to Tell My Darkest Secret

There was a time when I couldn’t have imagined sharing my darkest secret with a group. But last summer, I did it at a conference in front of hundreds of young adults. Read more

Five Questions with ‘Sacred Marriage’ Author Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an author of 14 books, including his bestseller Sacred Marriage. Somehow, in the midst of all that book writing, he has also found the time to author over 150 articles (including some for Boundless) and speak to audiences all over the world about his message of “bringing people closer to Christ and closer to others.” (Did I mention that he’s also married, has three kids, and has competed in 11 marathons?) Read more

Before We Speak our Minds on Social Media

Right now, the city of Baltimore is littered with damage from rioters who, for whatever reason, thought violence was an appropriate way to protest the death of a man in police custody.  At the same time, people are littering their Facebook and Twitter news feed with commentary about it.  Some of the statements are more thoughtful, some are less thoughtful, but all of them potentially come with a price. Read more

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