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What Men Should Know Before Tying the Knot

When I was single, I wrote a description of the kind of wife I expected to have and the kind of husband I thought I would be. I’m grateful I’ve lost that embarrassing list, but I do recall that many of my expectations centered on three areas: my confidence in instant maturity as a husband, the assumption of a near-perfect sex life and the expectation of non-stop infatuation. Read more

A Woman Won’t Fix Your Porn Habit

Not long ago, I was at my favorite coffee shop visiting with an acquaintance who is a recently married, self-professing Christian. He has a new baby girl, so I asked how his daughter was doing. He pulled out his iPad to show me a photo of her, and what happened next was one of the most awkward moments of my adult life. Read more

I May Have Witnessed the Beginning of an Affair

The other day, I was flying out of Memphis when an attractive-looking man and woman behind me struck up a conversation that I couldn’t help but hear. At first, they talked about where they were from, their work, and politics. But then things got more personal.  Read more

That Time I Lied and Said Sex Doesn’t Feel Good

I was the senior class president of Petal High School in 1997, and one of my duties was to make a trip to the middle school to talk about sexual abstinence with the eighth graders. Read more

What Makes Engagement So Hard

When I was single, I assumed engagement would be one of the easiest and most blissful parts of my relationship with my future spouse. But the day after I asked my fiancée, Raquel, if she would marry me, I discovered how wrong I was. Read more

The Keys to Protecting Your Kids from Sexual Abuse

When I recently wrote an article on Boundless about healing from the trauma of sexual abuse, I expected a reaction on social media.  What surprised me were the private messages from adults who, for years, had dark memories of sexual abuse locked inside. Read more

Is Porn Killing Men’s Desire for Marriage?

According to a recent study by the Barna group, at least 70 percent of single, self-identified Christian men view pornography on a monthly basis. Many Christian women probably look at this statistic and fear being stuck with a husband who’s more aroused by his smartphone than her. But I’m more worried many of these men will never get married at all. Read more

What to do With the Things You Hate About Yourself

Back in 2008, I followed the advice of a dear friend and interviewed a few people about the impact my life had on them.  The interview questions were designed to illicit mostly negative responses, and boy, did they ever. Read more

Stop Worshiping Your Virginity

When I was 16 years old, a middle-aged guy from my church gave me advice on choosing a woman to marry. According to that man, the most important consideration was the following: “Whatever you do, Josh, make sure you marry a virgin.”

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The Kind of Spouse Who Cheats

I thought Anna and Don Walker* had the kind of marriage I wanted – maybe they did at the time.

That was 15 years ago, when I was in college.  Back then, Anna and Don were the kind of couple you never dreamed would divorce.  They were steady, salt-of-the-earth folks who effortlessly served others and gave the impression that they really liked each other. Read more